A Good Kind of Ouch

Ever tear off a scab and it stings a little but also feels good because you can tell the tissue is healing? I had one of those moments this morning with a spiritual scab (one I will be sure to need to pick again).
I was reading James 1:19-21 NASB

This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God. Therefore, putting aside all filthiness and all that remains of wickedness, in humility receive the word implanted, which is able to save your souls.

and I realized that I really struggle with the 3 commands we are given here.
1) Be quick to hear
2) Be slow to speak
3) Be slow to anger
These aren't suggestions but commands that are continuous, meaning I have to do them all the time without stopping!
So as I read this again and started thinking deeper on it, I concluded that the first 2 imperatives ask me to put others ahead of myself and be kind and respectful. The last one demands that I set aside my pride and self absorption to act with humility and patience towards others. If I don't I am acting out a terrible habit that smacks of narcissism. OUCH!!!
Here comes the scab picking and a good kind of OUCH. Thanks God for peeling off another layer of this selfish heart. Help me to walk in obedience to these commands because only in you can I obey!